Should you keep doing stuff you hate?

I'm going to tell you the secret about doing stuff you hate.

There are some things that we as humans just have to do--going to school, paying taxes, doing laundry. If you came here to find out how to quit being a sophisticated part of society, just move into the jungle already. If normal things feel so horrible for you, maybe you're secretly a panda. But even pandas have hygiene, just saying...

That's beside the point of this post. I'm not telling you what to do, I'm just telling you whether you should.

All of our lives we're told that we're never going to be successful if we don't do stuff we hate sometimes. True. I hated school a lot, but I didn't just quit. And that wasn't just because it's against the law. I kind of learned to love it. There were classes I dreaded, but most of it was okay, or even amazing.

Want to know the secret?

It is possible to stop doing things you hate, if you start liking them.

I know what you're thinking. But don't go just yet.

My tips on how to stop doing things you don't like:

1. Don't say yes if you mean no. Stop wasting your time on people and activities that don't bring you happiness and who aren't going to last in the long run.

2. Put your main focus on things you love. If you're still in school, or have a job you don't enjoy, try to do your passion a little every day. Work toward your dreams and look forward to them. When the time comes, you'll graduate, or even quit your job to do your passion full time. Also, working hard on projects that you love will stop you from wasting time on activities that will only make you happy for a short amount of time. Don't fall for the temptations of netflix.

Wasting time will kill your dreams.

3. Ask yourself these questions: Do I have to do this? Does it make my future better? What would I rather be doing? Evaluate your answers and act accordingly.

4. After answering the questions, if you still have something that is compulsory (like school, chores or work) there really isn't much you can do about it.

I'm kidding. I'm here to solve your problems, buddy.

What made me survive school was figuring out what I liked, what I was good at, and what made me want to vomit in the teacher's cup of coffee. Think about your courses. It's impossible to be good at everything anyway. Choose consciously what you will use your energy on, and make studying fun.

Chores don't suck either. I play my favorite music and sing or dance while cleaning and doing laundry. What I'd also recommend is listening to Ted Talks. They work wonders on your mind. There are so many talks and so many speakers with different experiences. YouTube is really an amazing place. Just listen to people talk about stuff. Nothing is boring with earphones. Seriously.

5. Positivity is the key.

To love your future, you have to love your now.

Emphasize happy moments and find positives to everything you do. Learning what you like and dislike about certain things is extremely important in growing into a better person, but you have to do things you don't like in life. But a sucky ten minutes doesn't make a sucky day.

6. Chocolate and movies!

What would life be without chocolate and movies?

Make sure to reward yourself with things you love. Life is what you want it to be, so fill it with things that make you smile, because smiling is what those face muscles were made to do (also, to not take yourself too seriously, make a funny face or two whenever you feel that life's hard. It relieves stress, or so I believe. Just try it.)

A happy life comes from doing things you love, so hating the stuff you do can be super hard. But I believe in you. You can accomplish amazing things!

Remember, you don't have to love every step, but you have to love this journey in it's HUGE entirety. Hang in there! This is a bumpy road! :)

Love, Em.

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